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The Power of Rewards
There are hundreds of articles written by psychologists and educators that address the power or the value of using rewards with children and young adults. However, there does seem to be some confusion with regard to what that should look like.
Our team at The Appreciation Station believes strongly in balance. We also have learned that what is a great reward for one child, may not be appreciated by another. Most of this depends on a parents own personal value system and what they’ve taught their child to appreciate thus far.
Balance, in your own personal value system will bring balance to what your child appreciates and values and therefore considers rewarding. I consider a walk through the woods on the trails near our home very rewarding. I appreciate, very much, the opportunity it allows me to disconnect with life’s everyday stress. I always share my enthusiasm for this walk before I leave with my kids and invite one or all of them to join me. These walks have allowed us to share important conversations as a group and individually. My children have grown to appreciate these strolls through nature. It is rewarding to us all as a family.
Because we have four children, we recognize the importance of spending time with them individually. We often use coupons for walks or special dinners with our children as a way to spend one on one time together. It’s amazing how much more you learn about your child when spending time together individually, even if it’s only 10 or 15 minutes.
The bottom line on rewarding children is this; know your child’s currency. Take time to talk with your child and ask them what makes them happy. You may be pleasantly surprised to learn that a video game, stuffed animal or tangible reward is not nearly as valuable as sharing any experience in life with you, their parent.
